When to share our truth? When to share our thoughts, our feelings? When to share them with a romantic partner? What if we say something we can’t take back, something we’ll be “held to” in the future? What if we change our minds?
Changing our minds is inevitable: this used to stop me from sharing. Now, however, I ask myself, why save today’s truth for tomorrow? Why worry about changing our minds in the future when all we have is now?
Honesty is a risk, and yet more often than not, it brings us closer to the person we share with. I find that when I hold onto a truth, opting not to share it out of fear, I stop living fully. I find that when I share my truth, I open brand new doors.
Of course, there’s a difference between honesty and oversharing, between being open and being porous, but that’s not what I’m here to discuss today. I’m here to discuss being true to yourself in the present moment.
Below is a letter I wrote to my partner exemplifying this concept. For context, February 2nd was the night of our first date.
I absolutely love February 2nd as our anniversary. I think of January 29th – that fateful Tuesday of floor meetings and comedy shows – as the prologue. If we were ever to get married, I’d want to do so on February 2nd.
That was a risk to say. Because what if feelings change? What if circumstances change? What if we’re not meant to be together forever? I don’t care. We’re together now, and all we have is now.
No matter what happens in the future, I love you so much right now that I know I’ll have you in my heart forever. I also know that no matter where life takes us, you have impacted me so that you are and always will be a key character in my story.
You’re proof to me of the presence and power of love on this planet. I also believe in honesty and aim to practice it in every moment. This is my truth in this moment. So it doesn’t matter if my feelings change.
Love, I promise you that I am going to start working on your letter box. The more I write you, the more I fear that the “stack” is becoming unmanageable. Oh well! That won’t stop me from writing.
All my love,
In closing, I would like to say that the opinions expressed here are entirely my own and may not resonate with everyone; take what you like and leave the rest. All names and defining characteristics have been changed. If you liked what you read here, I invite you to share it, as these messages are for all.